… and somehow end up with this? And are reminded of Candy Dulfer.
I was looking for something positive as I am surrounded by so much negativity these days, and from so many different groups of local people (almost none of who actually know me even a little bit, I should add).
“If you don’t trust people, you make them untrustworthy.”
Lao Tzu in the Tao Te Ching
Trusting people does not necessarily mean that you are naive, though some people may believe that people who trust others are naive.
If you go through life behaving as if you assume that all or most people are good, you effectively appeal to the good in people.
In principle, such a “naive” attitude probably allows you to be the best you can be independently of who other people are.
It is a much easier and nicer way to live than to go around expecting everyone to be bad people or intending to outsmart you.
From “When Cultures Collide” (Leading Across Cultures) by (Briton) Richard D. Lewis:
Pinkney C Froneberger III who passed away much too soon recommended this book to me, the first time we met, which was at a workshop about cultural differences in Utrecht, the Netherlands in May 2004.
We discovered that we were both members of the Amsterdam American Business Club. We were business partners for a while, but we also spent part of US election night 2004 in Amsterdam, at the Amsterdam American Book Center’s Tree House.
A month later, I moved to Britain, and so much changed for me. In 2010, when I was living in Nightingale Road in Southsea, I still had a long phone conversation with him. (I didn’t tell him why I couldn’t fly over to visit him. I should have because I think he felt let down by me.) It was probably the last time we spoke.