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Here it is! Hmm. It’s a bit different. I like it, but I am not sure yet what to think of it. Takes a few plays, I guess. There’s a whole story in it. Makes ya curious. Yeah, okay, I like it!

(Confession: I really really really like Jamelia. And Irene too, I think.)

Tragedy, grief and resilience – not pity

I posted this video when I reached 5:39 and I’d already said “Yeah!” several times! People sometimes truly suffocate others to death with all their pity, with their stifling doom-and-gloom predictions, stopping them from moving on.

But the opposite happens too, of course.

Only you can determine how you will overcome something that happened to you and what the appropriate time for grieving is.

A psychologist, a long time ago, noticed that I seem to be pretty good at what this talk tells me is “benefit finding” (looking for the silver lining, the plus, no matter what it is). “You’re a true survivor!”, she exclaimed. It felt good to be told something like that. And it’s another thing to be grateful for, too.

One of my weaknesses may be that I get bogged down when I pay too much attention to people who tell me that I should be stressed or miserable or worried (or worse, that I am not worthy and should be ashamed or embarrassed over something). You’re supposed to talk about how bad things are. Not about what’s good and nice and wonderful, and fine and cool and okay.

You’re considered silly and childish and immature when you still see the wonderful in little things.

Benefit finding is one of the things Brits aren’t good at, at all, because what they call “whingeing” (an exclusively British word) is part of their culture. (British culture is a strange thing. I’ve learned that some of its peculiarities have resulted from the Brits or English wanting to follow the stoics, which somehow turned in people not acknowledging their own emotions but pushing them down and pretending that what happened didn’t really happen. Many Brits are not very good at relaxing and just being, but this also seems to go for many Americans these days, in a different way.)

The third trait that she mentions I find much harder (but I wrote this at the beginning of when she started explaining it). It’s not always clear in advance whether something is going to harm you or help you (such as, in her case, go to the trial). My solution for that? I ask myself if there is at least one good thing that I can get from it. This can be simply “satisfying my curiosity”.

Some people may call me naive when I give something (or someone) the benefit of the doubt, for the mere sake of finding out whether I was wrong or right about something (or someone). I sometimes attend events that I don’t think will bring me anything at all – just to see if perhaps I was wrong about that. And sometimes, I end up being wonderfully surprised by what I find. The unexpected. At other times, it brings me some form of learning.

I’ve forgotten what the first trait was that she mentioned, so that didn’t resonate strongly with me.

Can YOU still justify supporting Facebook?

Facebook has just added one more feat to its long history of appallingly unethical actions.

It began with the mood manipulation experiments for which the affected users had given no consent.

I thought that this would have major consequences for Facebook.

I was wrong. People just shrugged. They made fusses over Starbucks instead.

So Facebook took it further and further. It meddled in the US elections. It meddled in the UK’s Brexit referendum (the Cambridge Analytica scandal). Its boss gave governments the finger by not showing up for hearings. It paid kids to give it access to their entire digital lives.

And now this. Can you still justify using Facebook (and Instagram, and WhatsApp)?

I can’t.


An owl, a lizard and a cat walk into a bar.

Nonmi Hiseddeo:

An owl, a lizard and a cat walk into a bar. The bartender brings them 3 waters and puts a bowl of cockroaches down on the counter for them. Suddenly, the owl hears, “Hey, you’re a good-looking owl!” The owl turns around, but he sees nothing. Then the lizard hears, “Your colors are just stunning!” He turns around but sees no one. Finally, the cat hears a voice saying, “I bet your parents are SO PROUD of you!!” Having had enough of the mysterious voices, they call to the bartender. “Where’re the voices coming from?” they ask. “Oh,” says the bartender. “That’d be the cockroaches. They’re complimentary.”

Errors of the human body – and genome editing in Toronto

I am about to watch a film called “Errors of the human body” that I just ran into at the local Scope charity shop. Although I don’t know yet how much relevance it has within the context of the new eugenics, it reminds me of (the graphics for) a session on 17 October I saw announced on Twitter this afternoon:

If you happen to be in Chicago on the 14th, there is also this: