Experiences are personal

It is easy to think that many males may have a habit of invalidating women’s experiences.

But what also sometimes happens is that some takes another person’s experience and wants to own it, define it, take it away and completely bulldozers over the other person’s experience.

A few days ago, I saw a post online about some confusion about children who are merely young being “diagnosed” as having ADHD.

Another one of these “FFS!” moments.

Those naughty naughty kids! How dare they and oh, how incredibly SMART of the researchers in question to see that young children were  being put in boxes and being accused of having Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.</sarcasm>

In the same discussion, I saw an educational psychologist moan about the difficulty of properly diagnosing children in a way that really annoyed me, but mostly in hindsight (as went for the topic of the discussion).

I have meanwhile identified why the comment annoyed me so much.

There was zero attention for the children, or even for only one child, in the comment. It was all about this psychologist’s need to be able to put children in the appropriate boxes.

If you do that, you steal a child’s experience and make it your own, to serve you. It focuses on what you need, not on what the child needs.

In doing so, you deny the child its own experiences, don’t you? You tell the child that his or her experiences don’t matter, as long as people get to put the child into a box, that that is all that matters.

To some degree, you are robbing the child of its own childhood.

The fact that children are being misdiagnosed as having “ADHD” because they are young almost seems to indicate that there is no such thing as ADHD and that people (psychologists?) are looking for problems that aren’t there.

Maybe they do that so that they can ignore more difficult problems that do exist. Why else would adults, and notably psychologists, do something as bonkers as this?

Or maybe it means that psychology is an utterly useless profession.

Maybe it means that standardized designer babies really are around the corner, with the option of creating children who never fidget and never run around and never dance or jump or scream.

(Just tossin’ a few options around.)