It is like being a witness to a bank robbery and people around you concluding that you must be either a bank robber or a dishonest clerk.
I know. Bank robberies are getting rarer and rarer. But the example still works well as something to compare this with. Instead of a bank, maybe you can picture a jewellery store if that makes the comparison better for you.
Imagine you happen to be inside a bank when it gets robbed. Police will show up, take your witness statement and you may even be offered counselling. You will receive a lot of sympathy and support from the people you know and also from many people you don’t know.
If you become the target of sadistic stalking, however, and describe someone else’s behaviour – describe what happened, as you would do after a bank robbery – something really weird happens.
- People do not believe you.
- You are suspected of being a little unstable, to put it mildly, but if you’re lucky, they will conclude that you only become a little bit delusional when you’re under a lot of stress.
When you describe another person’s behaviour when that is focused on obtaining a financial gain, people believe you.
When you describe someone else’s “crazy” and scary behaviour that does not seem to be focused on obtaining anything conventional, such as money or jewellery, chances are that you will not be believed.
Part of the explanation for this is that people want to reassure themselves. (At least, that’s what I think.) If what you are telling is correct, then this means that it could also happen to them. So they tell themselves that you must be crazy, that you are merely imagining it, because if that is the case, what is happening to you could never happen to them. It’s as simple as that.
It still means nobody stands up for you and helps you defend your interests. Your life.
Your entire life becomes someone else’s result. You lose control over all aspects of your life, except to how you respond to that emotionally. This does not mean that you are weak or mellow, merely that you are protecting your health. Your mental health as well as your physical health. When there is nothing you can do, continuing to try only leads to frustration and perhaps also to extra expenses that result in merely a waste of money.
By the way, did you know that when you’re under a lot of physiological stress, you tend to UNDER-estimate risk?
Yet everyone laughs at you and pities you behind your back because you have been describing someone else’s crazy behaviour so people conclude that you are the one who is crazy. Yeah, right.
It’s one of the reasons why I think there should be a specialized organization that deals with cases of stalking. It should most certainly not be the police.