“Narcissistic personality traits and prefrontal brain structure”

“Given the relevance of narcissism in both clinical and non-clinical research fields, there is an astonishing paucity of neuroscience research relating narcissistic traits or behaviours to either brain function or structure.”


Why is this interesting? It’s been found that if you can provide visual “proof” of someone’s condition, it tends to result in greater acceptance and compassion. That may be critical in how we deal with individuals with NPD in society. (less friction) There is a tendency to blame people with NPD for how they are. But they didn’t create themselves.

Also, as the brain is much more malleable than we used to believe, I am highly interested in learning about this as it may hold clues for how we might be able to provide some relief for people with severe NPD by getting their brains to create brain connections that they currently lack. We used to think that neurons could not regenerate after being damaged and we also believed that no new neurons formed after adolescence, didn’t we?

Stalking & harassment: Not a policing matter

Stalking & harassment should not be a policing matter.

It’s a public health & safety matter. It does not just concern the risk whether someone will get stabbed to death but also whether the target will be allowed to work and make a living. Being stalked can easily cut ten years from your life expectancy.

Stalkers often seem to feel that the target owes them, that they own the target and that it is cruel of the target not to “love” them back.

There should be a specialised organisation with specialised forensic psychologists and psychiatrists, researchers and IT experts, but also (former) targets and (former) stalkers. Therapists who can teach those who engage in stalking behaviours about respecting other people’s boundaries and how to communicate differently should also be in the mix.

In addition, the police should check the identity of anyone who files a report thoroughly. That time when I went to the police and was told that I had already filed the same report a few days earlier and that the police had even already stopped by at my home address, the officer behind the counter consulted a colleague at a desk and I heard her ask “Is it the same woman?” A flabbergasting experience.

Now on ITV: Beautiful Molly McLaren. Stabbed to death in her car. Nothing “romantic” or “flattering”about it.

Watch the video about Molly – it’s online at ITV at the moment – and weep for her friends and parents.

For god’s sake, stop perpetuating the myth that stalking is flattering and romantic, because it never is.


It is my impression that the police mishandled the case of Molly McLaren. That’s largely because police officers are completely unequipped to assess such cases, however. The authoritarian approach that police officers tend to take likely can actually trigger violence.

It’s not a “social media murder”. You could just as easily call it a “fitness” murder. Social media are a normal aspect of our lives. The role that social media may have played – but that isn’t even certain, apparently – is that her killer may have used her social media to find out where she was that day.

Another problem with social media can be that people like Joshua Stimpson read things into social media posts that aren’t there. But they also do that with for example the spoken word.

In the past decade or so, probably mainly in the years 2011 – 2015, I’ve often felt that I couldn’t even sneeze on social media without it being misinterpreted by whoever was so obsessed with me. Just like Molly when she took him back after she broke up with Josh the first time, I’ve often felt that I had no choice but to try and appease whoever’s been messing with me. I’ve far too often been afraid of that person’s response because nothing I did was ever right in his eyes, it seemed.

My very existence often seemed to be experienced by him as an insult to his face. One day, there was this “you’re actually a really nice woman” and I thought “no shit, Sherlock”. It didn’t change a thing, however.

It’s happened to me, years ago, that I posted some kind of tribute – three videos – to some American musician who passed away a long time ago and it was misinterpreted as me trying to say something that I had not intended at all. It was just a few songs that I posted, nothing more, nothing less.

Location can be faked too, by the way. Just like caller ID, IP address and everything else. My location is sometimes Devon or places like Liverpool and it even is sometimes Scotland. I’m in Hampshire. It’s not me who does this. It’s my hacker routing me through various IP addresses, I suspect. (I can’t see O2 doing this, but maybe I am wrong about that.)

“Is cruelty cool?” is available from Waterstones!


And also from Amazon and other retailers, of course.

It’s my book about otherisation and what it can result in, such as workplace bullying and attacks like the one depicted on the cover of the book.

It draws heavily on my own 15+ years in England after having moved here from Amsterdam at the end of 2004, on Oxford neuroscientist Kathleen Taylor’s book “Cruelty. Human evil and the human mind” and on the talk that neuroscientist Rebecca Saxe gave on the neuroscience of hate at the Petrie-Flom Center for Health Law Policy, Biotechnology, and Bioethics at Harvard Law School.

Taylor’s book is also available from Waterstones as well as from Amazon: https://www.waterstones.com/book/cruelty/kathleen-taylor/9780199552627

Saxe’s talk is available on Vimeo: https://vimeo.com/333105887

Also of interest within this context is Bessel van der Kolk’s book “The body keeps the score” which you can find at Waterstones as well as on Amazon and elsewhere : https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-body-keeps-the-score/bessel-van-der-kolk/9780141978611

#health #neuroscience #diversity #inclusivity #inclusiveleadership #inclusionmatters

This is why we need a separate organisation that deals with reports of stalking and harassment

Police officers DO NOT POSSESS THE KNOWLEDGE to be able to triage such reports accurately. The required knowledge is almost never at hand. That is not only the case in the UK.

From: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-derbyshire-59430825


I am so sorry, Gracie, and Gracie’s family. Along with other (mental and physical) health-related issues, stalking and harassment remain the most difficult issues for the police to deal with because they’re unequipped to handle them and it’s rarely high on their agenda as so many reports are silly “he said, she said” quarrels, filed not in fear and concern but merely to spite another person. This field is much more a public health matter rather than a policing matter.

How do police regain trust after the murder of Sarah Everard?


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David BaMaung, Glasgow Caledonian University

The ability of the British police to operate effectively depends on the consent and support of the general public. The brutal kidnapping and murder of Sarah Everhard by PC Wayne Couzens in March 2021 severely damaged public trust in the police, and their ability to “police by consent”.

Long before he raped and murdered this young woman, Couzens should have been viewed as an “insider risk”, as his previous indecent behaviour should have flagged concerns. There have been reports that Couzens committed sexual offences and exhibited extremely disturbing behaviour several years before he killed Sarah Everard, and this continued right up until just days before her death.

His misuse of his authority as a serving officer to target Sarah Everard has critically undermined the reputation of the Metropolitan Police and the wider police service. And this has an impact on its ability to carry out its lawful functions.

For the police service, reputation and public trust are its most important assets, specifically because of the policing-by-consent approach it adopts. If the public no longer respect, support and cooperate with the police, this fundamental pact is broken.


Police failings

It is easy to view this tragic case with hindsight and place greater emphasis on the actions of some who were not in possession of all the facts at the time. While considerable criticism has been made of police senior management, much of Couzens’ behaviour appears not to have been officially recorded prior to the murder.

It is clear that these previous incidents of indecent behaviour were not investigated properly. Might there have been a conscious – or unconscious – reluctance on the part of officers to call out one of their own? Or perhaps they were unaware that Couzens was a police officer? If investigators were aware of this fact, it might indicate a worrying culture where unacceptable behaviour by some officers is tolerated.

This culture has also allowed for instances of inappropriate sexual behaviour where officers have exploited their authority. Former colleagues of Couzens at the Civil Nuclear Constabulary nicknamed him “the rapist” because he made female colleagues feel uncomfortable, yet nothing was done about this. Neither was the Metropolitan Police made aware of this when he transferred forces.

As reported in the media recently, there have been instances of poor police behaviour where misogynistic, racist and homophobic “humour” has been shared between officers on private messaging networks. While some might explain this as a way of coping with the emotions that stem from dealing with harrowing cases, such behaviour is not an acceptable way to deal with the stresses of the job.

This is not about freedom of speech – it is about having views that are incompatible with the role of a police officer. Failure to investigate and deal appropriately with this behaviour will only further erode public trust and confidence.

Changing the culture

The media and politicians have been demanding that immediate action to be taken, such as the resignations of senior officers, policing in pairs, and blanket approaches to police vetting. Her Majesty’s Inspectorate of Constabulary and Fire and Rescue Services (HMICFRS) required forces to re-vet all officers by July 2020, yet more than a quarter of police forces in England, Wales and Northern Ireland have still not vetted all their officers.

However, these approaches focus on short-term solutions. To truly succeed, the right foundations must be in place to embed permanent organisational change. This must be led from the top and amount to more than lip service. Clearly some parts of the UK’s police service have lacked the will to directly challenge a culture which has allowed misogyny, sexism, bullying, racism and a lack of respect for colleagues and the public to go unchecked.

The tragic events of Sarah Everard’s death should be used to drive permanent change. The police service needs to fully understand, accept and manage the risks that some of its people pose to the service, and especially, to the public. It is also essential for the police to grasp the value of reputation and public trust, and mitigate any risks to them. I believe the vast majority of police officers support such an agenda for change.

To recover from this crisis, the issues must be addressed head on. Aberrant behaviour must be challenged and dealt with. The police service needs to actively promote a culture where not reporting a fellow police officer’s inappropriate behaviour due to fear of reprisals or being ostracised, is no longer the norm.

Supervisors must be encouraged to play a critical role and take action when they – or any officer – identify behaviour that is concerning. The human resources apparatus must be involved, and leadership also has a critical role in ensuring there is full transparency during this process. The police need to demonstrate to the public that a change in culture is underway. Only then will they be able to recover the trust that has been so badly eroded by this appalling murder.The Conversation

David BaMaung, Honorary professor human resource development, Glasgow Caledonian University

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

I confess that I am still a little taken aback to see how accurate my assessment was that the Met knew Couzens had a problem. I concluded that instantly when he was arrested so quickly. I don’t know what I picked up on besides the speed of the arrest (possibly the absence of certain details in the reporting).

A paper that I was recently asked to review, for Academia Letters

The reviews are posted with the paper, in the column on the right. If Academia sent an invitation for a discussion, then I’ve overlooked that. I haven’t checked yet whether the paper underwent revisions after I reviewed it.


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Update on previous post

24 November 2021, 16:08
Have meanwhile contacted the party who issued the item that was taken from my flat, on Monday, but have not heard back yet.

I had had the item in my hands a few days previously and am angry with myself for not having kept it with me. But I cannot go around having everything with me that I do not want anyone who keeps picking the locks to take from within my flat. It is impossible!

I think it’s part of him having been busy thwarting something that I was trying to do, a professional activity, that is. I had received a survey about this item, which I completed and which revealed that I planned to use the item. I have meanwhile realised later that that too may have been spoofed – asking me about my use of the item.

To be specific, he has cut off a very important form of transport for me.

I have asked for a replacement of the item, but so many access methods are app-only these days so I don’t know whether I will be able to get a replacement. I cannot do anything app-based, in this case, for all sorts of reasons. The previous time that I used this transport, he messed with that too. (It cost me money, while I didn’t get to use the transport, but I can blame mainly my own stupidity for that little silly incident.)

This time, it’s really mean what he’s done. Unless the replacement for the item is in the mail or my poltergeist returns the item. He does often return items, sometimes after a few months, sometimes after years. But I have a feeling that he is really out to damage me now.

He probably has no idea how much his actions often scare me, regarding the things that he does and also regarding how angry he sometimes gets when I protest. Because there is nobody there. It’s all anonymous, from a distance. It is so creepy. Unhealthy, too. I can’t keep bottling this up because there is not anyone to talk with about this, nobody to go to and say “stop this shit!” to (even though I have a pretty good idea of who did this, in practice, this time).

YOU need to be aware of this because YOU will fall for this because YOU do not believe that this happens and that this is even possible


A LinkedIn Learning course about deepfake videos, shallowfakes, deepfake audio and more. And most of this almost anyone can do. Some of this software was made for podcasting, for example.

By the way, sites where you can check the accuracy of news are https://www.politifact.com/ as well as https://www.snopes.com/ and https://www.factcheck.org/

Oh, and you need to check out this too: https://moondisaster.org/

How to stimulate small business in Portsmouth?

  1. Provide an automatic income top-up for starters, for up to five years. For a lower max amount by year.
  2. Couple it to support by teaming them up with mentors with active successful businesses, preferably people who have been through lows, too, and may perhaps even have needed to declare bankruptcy, before. People who had to shoe-strap their business and made it. Not people with wealthy aunts who loaned them the money to get started (like Branson). Not so-called business advisors because those are usually people without good insights but who fantasise(d) about being big entrepreneurs. They neither have the savvy, nor the attitude. But they like yackyacking. So none of the usual Pompey this and that folks with or without awards. (Also because these Pompey this and that folks tend to have tunnel vision.) Although some of them may make good accountants, that doesn’t make them allround business advisors. No real estate developers either. Because they tend to teach bad business practices.

It’s not true that “success” means making millions. Success is what YOU want it to be. Not what someone else tells you it is

And it’s not true either that “stiffing others” equals “success”.

Shows like The Apprentice should come with information such as that in order to sell inside a shopping centre, you need to apply to be allowed to, usually have to pay to be allowed to and must have insurance in place, regardless of whether you have staff or not.