Not flattering. Not romantic. And not addressed.

25:00: Yes. Get a new car, get a new job, and in a different field, move to a place to which you have no connections and change your name if you can. (The latter is easy in some countries, near-impossible in others.)

I know someone who had to do that in the Netherlands, who got the same advice from the police. She did. He did eventually find her but that was much later and he spoke with someone else; she was not at home at the time. He’d lost his interest by then.

The reason why the police took her seriously from the get-go is that this guy had already tried to kill her.

There’s nothing romantic or flattering about stalking.

When it concerns someone wit for example a learning disability, it is just as scary because women aren’t mind-readers and there is no telling what someone may do. But in this case, mediation can make a world of difference.

28:00: In England, the police take no interest at all in stalking risk assessments (S-DASH), has been my own experience.

So this guy is out of prison now? So I did a web search.

So this is the result.

As you can see…

This is not working. Stalking is currently not being addressed, not being remedied. The (rare) prosecution wins do not equal “success” for the stalking targets.

“Ms McDonald is so worried he will continue to stalk her that she wants Gardiner to wear an electronic ankle bracelet to monitor his movements.”

I am curious whether neurofeedback has ever been tried on people who exhibit stalking behaviours.

When I started watching these videos, I initially thought that – ha ha – her stalker turned out to be that FBI analyst. He does not strike me as autistic (Asperger’s). He strikes me as possibly having NPD. I don’t see the out-of-control anger of borderline personality disorder – abandonment issues – but I do see a tendency for control and this tendency to tarnish the reputation of people and the attempts to mess with her, that goes with NPD rather than with anything else. But… I am merely chucking this out of my hat like imaginary rabbits out of an imaginary magician’s hat. There are other disorders out there that I am simply not familiar with.