How – why – sadistic stalkers manipulate their victims (and what does it have to do with Jonty Bravery, if anything?)

Why do these folks what they do?

Why does someone at some point decide to try to drive another human being crazy through the application of the most bizarre shit, usually implemented by others so that the real culprits stay out of view?

Why do they things like drive people into deep poverty and then attempt to manipulate them through food and money?

What is behind this bizarre behaviour? Sadistic stalking makes no sense. Where is the economy behind it? What on earth do sadistic stalkers gain through it?


It’s an expression of agony and frustration. Of pain. Of despair.

Sadistic stalkers lose a lot of time and a lot of money. Their little hobby is expensive.

The economy behind it is completely missing. There is none.

Yes, the victims lose immensely. But the stalkers don’t gain anything from it.

For the record, someone has been messing with my cold-water supply. I haven’t identified the exact nature of it yet. I initially thought that it was because one of the flats was empty for quite a while. But it’s getting worse while the flat is no longer empty.

Water again… What is it with this water/ rain theme?

I can tell you one thing. This article below about this stalking clinic here has nothing to do with it. If, and it’s a big if, Hampshire Constabulary takes a stalking victim seriously and really makes an effort, it mostly concerns ex-partner stalking.

Sadistic stalking doesn’t even feature in the awareness of this particular psychologist (but I suspect that the journalist got a few of the facts wrong; there’s an error in the article).

I think I may have to return to a theory I used to entertain. Abuse of children.

Is the incidence of sadistic stalking greater in England than in other countries? We have no way of knowing.

Let’s take this a little further.

What did Tracey Morgan’s stalker say to her? He was lonely, because his wife who was also in the navy and who was also called Tracey was stationed in Asia.

Me, I got to hear “my wife’s passed away due to ALS” and “my wife left me because I was always working too hard”. I didn’t take that as a signal to take pity, but both times saw it as pure factual information as it came from a complete stranger.

Next came “I am a photography student.”

This was after I had gotten confirmation that I had not been imagining it that, after all of this began, I started spotting people who seemed to be taking photos of me.

What I am interested in is how he got people to do that? Because besides on the day that I got the confirmation that I had not been imagining it that people had been taking photos of him, I think it was usually others who did that.

Then again, I can’t be sure of that, as I didn’t know of the dude’s existence and therefore was not on the lookout for him. I’d see a flash, or a face holding a camera in front of it. Hard to see who is behind the flash or the camera.

Why do sadistic stalkers have this urge to turn others into “dance monkeys”?

Because it was once done to them?

Why did Jonty Bravery pick up a random kid and throw the kid off the balcony at the Tate?

Was it merely an expression of immense anger and frustration or was there some kind of symbolism behind it too? If so, what was the symbolism?

He had been very frustrated with his carers.

In this BBC article, it is said “There was no recent evidence that he presented a risk to other children or adults unknown to him.”

But he had made relevant announcements.

In 2018, he told some of his care workers he planned to push someone off a building and go to jail.

(Why would he want to do that? Why did he even tell them that?)

He was diagnosed as autistic at age 5. He eventually went into professional care. His parents spoke of this as follows:

“His parents thought this detrimental to his mental health, the report says.

His father told the review he felt “frustrated” at the apparent lack of expertise among private care providers dealing with his son.”

Is this type of behaviour – including sadistic stalking – a form of “acting out” as a result of abuse? Because of never being heard?

How does it tie in to the Priklopils and the Browns, the people who take others hostage and imprison them in their basements? Are they doing to others what was once done to them? These behaviours make no sense. There is no economy behind it, though the imprisonment of others in one’s basement, certainly in the case of Priklopil who carefully constructed a prison cell for his victim, does take the elimination of risk into account.

During a four-week placement in a children’s home in 2017, Bravery hit a climbing wall instructor at a leisure centre, deliberately damaged a car and assaulted a member of staff with a brick.

Later that year, he dragged a member of staff along the floor by her hair and, in 2018, he disclosed he was planning to kill his stepmother and sister.

The review says: “It is evident that professionals working with (Bravery) at this time did not think he would act on these statements, which were seen as attention-seeking behaviour.

“This was because all of (Bravery’s) actions were viewed as products of his autistic behaviour and there was no consideration of these threats in a context of conduct disorder.”

Attention-seeking behaviour? “Conduct disorder”?

It boggles the mind.

Did Jonty Bravery in a sense throw himself off the balcony? The way he was being thrown off the balcony all the time, perhaps? “I want to kill someone.” Response: “Let’s ignore the boy, he is just seeking attention”.

What more could he have done to get people’s attention?

Why, did he say, he was going to do that, according to the Daily Mail? He wanted to do something that would get him sent to prison. “to be away from here”

Carers’ recording of Jonty Bravery in full 

Jonty Bravery: I’ve got it in my head, I have to, I have to kill somebody to go to prison, to be away from here…I just need to tell you….

In the next few months – it has to be, the latest has to be by February, in my head, yeah – but ideally I want to do it before. 

If I could do it right now, I would. I’ve got it in my head, a way to, a way to kill somebody. 

And I know for a fact, I’m going to go to prison, if I do that. So, I want to, one day, meet up with my dad…it could just be a friend, it could be anyone, I’m just saying specifically what I’ve got in my head, and then go out – go out for the day casually, and just go out to central London, just for the day out, yeah, as if we’re having a normal day. 

And then go and visit some of the landmarks. It could be The Shard, it could be anything, it could be – as long as it’s a high thing, and we could go up and visit it. 

And then push one of – push somebody off it. And I know for a fact they’ll die from falling from the hundred feet. There!…you happy now?

Carer: Has there been anything in particular that triggered this off?

Jonty Bravery: Moving back here and my iPad going, yeah.

Carer: So if you were to get an iPad, for example, that would basically cancel everything…

Jonty Bravery: YES!

“There! You happy now?” (You say I am crazy, so I act crazy?)

(He certainly is very angry. Frustrated. Miserable.)

Yes, maybe nothing was going on. Maybe a brain scan would show up a huge tumour or an empty space where there should be brain matter.

Why did Jonty Bravery want to “kill his stepmother and sister”? Why not his dad, too?

He has gotten a life sentence and has meanwhile gotten another sentence added onto that because he “punched a female nursing assistant in the head and face and pulled her hair, after she said she was going to clean his room at the high-security psychiatric hospital” and then “bit the finger of the second complainant because he had to come to help her”.

He responded to what he experienced as an invasion of his space or his privacy. He didn’t say “please don’t do that, can you please clean my room on another day? I am feeling pretty crappy at the moment.”

Either because he couldn’t. Or because he knew it would make no difference.

Apparently, he told the dad of the boy that he threw off the balcony that he was crazy? (It was mentioned in a tabloid.)

When kids get told all the time that they are this or that – something negative – they sometimes decide to start behaving the way that they are told they are.

How do I know that?

Because my youngest sister said that to me once. She said that after hearing her dad tell her time and time again that she was a bad person, there was a point that she decided she might as well act accordingly. But it wasn’t her. And she knew that. What went on in my dad’s mind was my dad’s problem, not my sister’s. My sister was blessed with a great brain. Jonty Bravery wasn’t. My sister isn’t autistic. She is full functional. She also had the smarts to send herself to a psychologist when she was in her twenties. The psychologist determined that she was suffering from depression. She picked herself up after my dad threw her off his balcony.

Could that be the main difference? That my sister was blessed with a great brain?41

Jonty Bravery had a stepmother. What happened to his birth mother? Apparently, his parents divorced when he was three.

What is the story behind the stalking of me?

(I know that there is WWII trauma in the family background.)

How is it even possible that someone like me – an educated adult from Amsterdam – got abused relentlessly by people around her and everyone around me considered that fine? How is it possible that Bijan Ebrahimi – a friendly adults from Iran, with a bad back – was abused for seven years by people around him and police officers and council staff and then killed and set on fire? I

Isn’t it the same story, perhaps?

Jonty Bravery’s threat was not an attempt to manipulate others into giving him his iPad back. It was a protest against people having taken it from him. The Daily Mail wrote that the carers had been “forced” to take the iPad from him. Oh really?

He badly wanted out of that council care facility. He got what he wanted, the only way he knew how.

Meanwhile, my tormentor’s (plural/singular) has been pulling the same childish shit on me, for at least about an hour already, that he also pulled a few years ago. He knows that I no longer have my computer speakers – so can’t do a thing about it – and he thinks that that will be sufficient to drive me nuts?

But I just blot it out. I ignore his shit. I have had 13+ years of it, after all.

Jonty Bravery seems to have had this this same baby-like insistence on getting his wishes fulfilled, like a baby that wants milk, that also applies to my stalker(s).

Attention-seeking behaviour? Yes. But what is it that they want? To be heard?


To be heard. They want to be heard.

When I just looked for a file, a screenshot in which my stalker confessed that he was after my attention, I found this (see below). This has always been a theme for him. He’s let this pop up in the strangest places. He’s always appeared to emphasise that he wants me to be an advocate for neurodiversity etc. But I can’t even do that if he keeps strangling me. He does not seem to understand that.

The original file, the file that I was looking for? He’s deleted it… I’ve just uploaded it again.

(He posted this after having messed with – delayed – incoming payments for 6 months. A guy who sometimes refers to me as a “car”, his “laptop”, his “bunny” and also in the past, his “wife” and his “mother”.)

How is it possible that I am standing here – no income, no food, no electricity, and in a few days, no internet access – typing the above, trying to figure out what sadistic stalking is and how I can make it stop so that I can get my life back? Is England really this batshit-crazy that it considers this a normal situation? I sure don’t.

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