If you are based in Hampshire or the Isle of Wight, then you should self-refer to the local stalking clinic. Its contact data are in the image below.
I read one of the published papers that came out of this clinic and from that, it was obvious that this clinic has almost no effect. Why is that?
It only deals with a tiny fraction of stalking cases, so tiny that the effect of this clinic on the population is negligible. Some convicted stalkers are referred to it, you see. Stalking is almost never taken seriously by the police and almost never prosecuted.
I agree that stalking is a public health matter rather than a policing matter. I know that these stalking clinics are pilots. Dealing with stalking cases also requires extensive IT knowledge and forensics, however. That still almost never appears to be at hand and there are other shortcomings.
The fact that stalking victims are rarely supported and often ridiculed means that people who would like help with modulation of stalking behaviors are left to struggle entirely on their own. You don’t exactly go to your GP and tell the receptionist that you are a stalker, do you?
So the only way in which this local clinic can hope to have a real impact is if people like you, who others have accused of stalking behaviors, contact it and ask for help. This is one of only three places in the UK where you can safely do that.
People who engage in stalking behaviors often simply have no idea of the fear that they cause. Some people may even see themselves as merely playful.
- Learning to be at peace with yourself and accepting of yourself is probably a crucial step.
- Learning to recognize and respect other people’s boundaries is probably another one.
- A third one can be accepting that friendship with a woman does not include the right to have sex with her or break into her home all the time, also if you pick her locks and do no damage.
- Another one could be accepting – not “understanding” as there’s no logic behind it – that sending someone flowers once is nice but that sending someone flowers every day is not. (Unless the person tells you that it is okay to do so.)
- Isolating a woman is not the same as caring for her. She is not “a rose” who must be kept under a glass cover to protect her, the way it’s described in “Le Petit Prince”, and certainly not against her will (without her expressed consent).
There are two other clinics. One is in Warrington, Cheshire and is now rather antagonistically called Harm Reduction Unit. The third one is in London but it operates nationwide. See below.
