My main professional background is in the earth & life sciences, but I now also explore topics in the broad area of bioethics. That's about equality, fairness, justice, diversity and inclusivity. It's also about people's biases, the associated otherization and everything that this can result in. That includes poverty, homelessness and poor health, shabby looks and shrinking personal bubbles, exposure to chemical and noise pollution and lots more. It's also about law, philosophy, neuroscience, technology, forensic psychology, politics and public policy (governance). Diversity and inclusivity are much bigger challenges than I used to believe. I for example now think that society's lack of genuine acceptance and support for people whose brains work very differently can among other things result in destructive behaviours for which the forensic psychology terminology is sadistic stalking or resentful stalking. My own experiences on the receiving end of something like this caused me to start looking into personality disorders and neurodiversity. That is how I stumbled upon bioethics. Seeing the massive inequality in England had something to do with it too. No, I don't have all the answers. Do you?
Particularly young people aren’t doing very well at the moment. They’re lonely. It seems to be a global trend now.
Brits used to be Europe’s loneliest people, according to studies. I figured that they were among the world’s loneliest because each time when I walked down an English street and heard lively animated chatting and some laughter and the clink clonk sounds of glass and cutlery, it always came from foreigners. It also often applied when I sat in Portsmouth’s Le Café Parisien, which was one of my favorite spots for a long time.
I remember reading an article by a young English person about twenty years ago. She was on a business trip, sitting in her hotel room and realized that there was nobody she could call.
Studying how this loneliness disease came about in Britain may contain lessons for how to combat the loneliness epidemic around the world. One of the solutions is surely to stop boxing people in according to age. It does not only isolate the elderly, it also isolates the other age groups and perhaps particularly young people.
Then again, a big part of the loneliness epidemic is also surely the idea that being on your own is bad. People may be ruminating too much about their perceived loneliness instead of living their lives. Blame social media? More and more young people are now ditching their smart phones because they want to have meaningful interactions in real life again.
Statements such as “it is very humiliating for so and so” when it was others – not so and so – who did something really stupid or embarrassing to someone else made me realize that “humiliation” is as ill-defined as dignity.
When I explored dignity, it became clear to me that dignity is so personal that it can only be defined by the person it applies to. A life in dignity hence is one in which one can make one’s own decisions and opinions and communicate them, also when communicating them is not easy.
Humiliation, on the other hand, has little to do with the person or persons it is about. It is fully defined by the person or persons who find something humiliating, for someone else. What it does is express the opinion that the other person is perceived as a lesser human or a lesser being.
It’s hilarious when a pet has something on his head or a person has a piece of paper on his back, just a friendly slap and presto. But the pet or person is not aware of it, so it’s got nothing to do with the being that is perceived as experiencing humiliation.
When someone is attacked, it can also be perceived as “humiliating” but it has nothing to do with the person who is attacked. It’s entirely in the mind of the perceivers. When I looked into related word, I realized that it seems to be connected to “to bring low”, so maybe it is about making someone appear less than the person actually is.
It’s a really baffling concept when you think about it.
Just consider someone who gets soaked in a rain shower. I once read that it’s an absolute faux pas to show up at a job interview looking as if you’d just been in a shower. That it could be seen as evidence of bad planning or not being very capable. But the fact is that you don’t control the weather and if you plan to get a taxi that will drive you into the parking garage of a building so that you can enter that way, you could get stuck in traffic or find the parking garage temporarily closed. Umbrellas have their limits.
Humiliation is a fascinating concept.
Why is this “humiliating” for the dog? It’s funny. But why do some people call this humiliating for the dog?
This is hilarious, in my eyes. I can’t tell you why the lower photo is hilarious, but it is. In the above photo, it is the discrepancy. Oh, wait, that also applies to the lower photo.
But if it is also humiliating, then why?
This one is terrific, and also hilarious. Is this one also seen as “humiliating”? I bet not.
So humiliation truly is in the eyes of the beholder and as such often says more about the beholder than about the person (or being) they are looking at.
It’s related to otherization, somehow. It’s got something to do with playing with boundaries. It could hold the key to some of the challenges the world is dealing with.
It’s why people like Nigel Farage sometimes get treated to a milkshake or a cake.
(Oh, it’s just happened again! In Clacton, on 4 June. I didn’t know that.)
Is it intended to bring them down from their high horse in that case? It’s definitely intended to break their stride. Maybe it’s done to make them feel what they are doing to others. Because their rhetoric whips up a lot of hate and it leads to worse than people throwing milkshakes at them.
I can so relate to this. I really miss being able to run on the Southsea Common. Still do. I’ll find me a new one. I started running when I was still in primary school. Not like this. For me, things need to be fun. Enjoyable. For most people, not so much.
I happen to have had a physically tough week. I’m so done with that too. I need all those hippos off my chest. Be free again.
Where I am right now, it’s ridiculously similar to Portsmouth in some respects. 😁
Father and son-in-law have just been sentenced to five years, and to pay damages to six of their victims (which is very rare and usually very modest in the Netherlands). Sadism, said the court. These are people who enjoy hurting people, said others.
People who are this controlling and sadistic often are also experts at spinning tales about the people they are abusing, which makes it even less likely that anyone will believe them.
Complaints about sadism are often ignored.
In England, many people WATCHED as they saw a radiant young woman change in front of their eyes as she became kept as a slave and inundated with sadism. She was eventually found in a cupboard, emaciated and dead.
I know very well how this works. If you dare talk about what is going on, people will experience you as unpleasant, and as making things up.
People see what is happening, because it is essentially happening in front of their eyes, they know that something is going on, they know that what is happening does not add up, yet they CHOOSE TO LOOK THE OTHER WAY and blame the victims.
Things like this can only happen with the full cooperation of people who witness it and choose to blame the victims.
She’s dead now because people around her CHOSE to look the other way.
Many people become abusive or controlling or sadistic when someone else depends on them and has no recourse. Never never never ask people for help (if that means that you’d then depend on them) unless you are one thousand per cent sure that they won’t abuse you. Because you might end up in an even worse situation, otherwise.
Having (mostly) been inundated with hate for two decades, I know how strongly it can affect a person, how it can change you. It does not require you to have been a mentally weak or cognitively impaired person at the start.
In the Netherlands, people are extremely individualistic but they also rely heavily on local and national government and don’t necessarily like taking initiative. “Everything needs to be BIG. It can’t be small; that means that it doesn’t get taken seriously.” That needs to change. Every little step counts.
Most are still really into greenwashing themselves green as far as I can see, but people’s lifestyles need to change.
He seems to – may – have another stunt planned for today. Probably something like he did on Friday. If so, nothing I can do about it anyway. So it would be more of the same and wouldn’t make a difference either way.
13 June 2024, 11:16: The computer was offline for about an hour yesterday, at a crucial time. I have no way of telling whether there was something malicious at play or not. It was a little similar to what happened on Friday, but that could be a coincidence.
I keep getting references for Ireland, and they’re not for online purchases that can be shipped but for things that are local. This morning Google actually told me that on the basis of my activities, it thought that my location was Dublin. This stuff has been going on for a few weeks now. So I decided to ask ChatGPT.
I agree. A brain scan should become standard. We already take fingerprints.
I argued for this in my book “We need to talk about this”. Now a professor in Forensic Neuro-pedagogy (Maaike Kempes) is saying something similar.
One third of young Dutch criminals have brain damage, she says. Brain damage can mean that someone may have little control over the person’s behavior. They can for example get into fights and traffic accidents more easily than people without brain damage. Stress such as caused by financial difficulties in combination with brain damage can aggravate this.
Neuro-pedagogy is an interdisciplinary field that combines neuroscience and education to understand how the brain learns and how to apply this understanding to improve teaching methods and educational outcomes. This field aims to bridge the gap between brain research and practical teaching strategies, providing insights into how cognitive processes such as memory, attention, and emotion influence learning.
I’m glad I voted after all. The ones that did, like me, even if they considered not voting, like me, helped achieve that narrow lead. #notinmyname
Later followed by this, also in the Guardian:
This evening is also UK election debate. I wonder if the BBC will stream it on YouTube. Let’s find out…
Yes, streamed on site.
Yuck, weasel Farage, been hiding under a stone for so long, has popped up again. Mordaunt looks tired. Never seen her look this tired before.
Yes, Penny (Conservatives), re laughing stock.
Yes, Carla (Greens), this election – more than ever, perhaps – is indeed about what kind of country we want to live in.
No, Angela, bringing up the non-dom issue in response to questions about the NHS is bollocks. Shameful! That’s almost like Theresa May.
Malarkey, Nigel.
Oh, Penny messed up? Portsmouth already had a dentistry department at the university, but I may have misheard.
Angela is basically just as big a disgrace as the Tories. And she is modulating her accent on purpose. Wow.
Lorenzo Barba, member of the public, doesn’t want immigration? No, he wants responses.
Thank you, Stephen!
Malarkey, Nigel. Malarkey.
Thank you, Rhun!
Penny sayin’ this from a town that was and is built on immigration, also from within the UK, that migration is too high. Portsmouth would collapse without the money spent there by its high percentage/number of mostly very highly educated foreigners.
Thank you, Carla!
Side note: fact checking going on in the background.
By the sound of it, Wales and Scotland still remain the brains of the UK, which is reassuring.
There’s not enough difference between Labour and the Conservatives.
As evidenced by how similarly they went at eachother?
(Penny’s lost her edge. OMG. I’ve seen her at the Guildhall in 2010 or thereabouts. She was so much more impressive then. I had to admit that she came across as highly capable. She’s lost that. At least during this debate. Makes sense. Back then, the sky was the limit. Nothing to lose. Now she has nothing left to lose and nothing left to gain. She’s going nowhere.)
Nigel is just calculated hot air. It’s just words, no substance.
Wow. The applause so far goes for Green, SNP and Welsh views. (Welsh=Welsh Labour, Plaid Cymru)
Penny dodging the question, like so often.
Thank you, Mishal, moderator. (Repeatedly)
Apparently, Rishi Sunak makes 30 million from his investments, not 2. (Gary Stevenson initially thought it was 3, then corrected it to 30. I assume he’s correct.)
Nigel remains just another Boris.
Carla, yes, it’s called dithering and it’s bad for businesses when they can’t plan.
Penny, you’re lost. It’s hilarious how she deliberately tries to channel Theresa May and appear prime ministerial and then goes off the rails again.
There they go again. Angela and Penny show they cannot govern the country.
Carla, you should have had that number!
Dang, Nigel gets applause for stop and search.
Lower crime numbers do not represent less crime, just fewer people reporting crime.
Many young people don’t feel safe, agreed. Which is why many carry knives.
Many older adults don’t feel safe. Many women don’t feel safe.
Police have not been investigating most crimes for a long time. I doubt that job satisfaction among police officers has increased under the Tories.
Angela turns up her accent again during her final statement.
(It obviously plays no role for Wales and Scotland.)
Carla!!! You mindreader! 😁
(I suppose that’s why I was a member of the Greens for a while. I’ve been saying that Labour and the Conservatives are too alike for years. Yes, it’s gotten worse under Starmer.)
I agree with Wales needing to be taken into account.
Ha ha, Penny.
Nigel, fighting for ordinary people? Since when?
THE END
And that’s when I realized that I don’t think I have said anything about the Lib Dems…
Also, can people in England vote for Plaid Cymru or the SNP? I don’t know.
I assume that the BBC will have the video of it up soon and then I will post it below.
8 June 2024
The BBC has only published bits of it on its YouTube channel and so have other channels.
highlights
one moment
The Guardian calls Farage a confident speaker. Yes. It’s Boris Johnson’s style. It’s not suitable for anyone seeking to lead. Other than that, yes, indeed, he was on the fringes of the action, mostly piping up as if he were entertainment in a break.
And here below we have a former political journalist from the BBC (Sr True Dedication) trying to achieve the opposite of what Rayner and Mordaunt seem to want. Apparently, half the world is having elections this year so half the world is determining what kind of leadership it wants.
On this website, I’ve mentioned a few times before that I sometimes have the impression that some people out there have lost the ability to distinguish between computer games and real life and that I find that worrisome.
So stunts as described in this CNN article do not please me and I am reassured to see that the guy behind it is being charged. Stunts like these normalize violence and destruction. That’s dangerous.
Screenshot of video in which fireworks were blasted from an airborne helicopter at a Lamborghini
I wish that in the past decade or so, someone had clued me in to the fact that my vision problems were merely caused by DRY EYES. People have no idea how much it can interfere with working on a computer, particularly when it concerns work that isn’t really interesting (which makes it much easier to get distracted and annoyed by blurry vision).
I am not the only one who found this father of utilitarianism – and his disciple John Stuart Mill – cold and callously calculating, but there may soon be a little bit more insight into how this extremely privileged pampered person saw the world.
Years ago, when I was drafting documents for a lawsuit that I had started on my own and was carrying out on my own, I contacted a local lawyer to ask him about a term. (Well, technically, he was in Fareham, I think.) He didn’t understand why I was making such a fuss about one word.
Having worked at top law firm Clifford Chance (while also working at VU University and starting my small business and convening a conference session in Boston), where we drafted and printed and edited and printed and edited and printed and edited and edited and faxed and edited and edited agreements that were usually around one hundred pages, I knew that even a comma can make a crucial difference, and as I wasn’t dealing with small-time solicitors but with the lawyers for insurance companies (and a London-based barrister), I couldn’t afford to make a mistake that might accidentally undermine the point that I wanted to make. I wanted to avoid any ambivalence.
For those of you who think that I am exaggerating, read this article about how a single comma is deciding over the fate of so many humans:
What the ICJ should have written is the following.
Instead of writing that Israel should
“Immediately halt its military offensive, and any other action in the Rafah governorate, which may inflict on the Palestinian group in Gaza conditions of life that could bring about its physical destruction in whole or in part.”
The ICJ should have written that Israel should
a) Immediately halt its military offensive; and b) Immediately halt any other action in the Rafah governorate, which may inflict on the Palestinian group in Gaza conditions of life that could bring about its physical destruction in whole or in part.
