Did you know that in 2017/2018, the police recorded 10,334 incidents of stalking whereas the Crime Survey for England and Wales estimates that there were over 1,000,000 self-reported victims of stalking each year for about the same time period?
Stalking is often treated as if it doesn’t exist. It’s as if, like endometriosis, it’s seen as merely seen as a common figment of women’s imagination, emotional instability and anxiety.
It’s not fair.
That you sound completely crazy when you describe other people’s completely crazy behaviours doesn’t mean that you are crazy just like getting hit by a runaway bus with failing brakes does not imply that you must have failing brakes too.
I know a scientist who was stalked by an ex who had already tried to strangle her. She was supported very well by the police; this was many years ago and not in the UK. The police gave her excellent advice, which she followed. Years later, he still managed to track her down but she was not at home at the time and someone else told him to buzz off. He gave up his stalking activities after that.
Crazy bad things can and do happen to GOOD and INTELLIGENT people, not exclusively to silly delusional crackpots or attention-seeking liars. Sometimes, that’s on purpose. Because it’s more enjoyable for some people to destroy good and capable people and make them look like losers than to go after people who they consider insignificant.
Long-term stranger-stalking is enabled by the profound otherization of the victims.
I have tips for you, such as the following items.
- Cheap, easy-to install sound alarms to increase your security and peace of mind.
- Gloves that can protect your hands against knife attacks which makes it easier to defend yourself in such a situation.
- Cheap, easy-to-operate recording devices (sound and/or video) with motion detection.
- A free PDF version of my booklet with tips for those who are their own boss.
- I have another booklet available from Amazon, as a Kindle e-book and as a paperback. I frequently update it on Amazon, which is why I no longer offer the PDF file as a free download.
- If your door locks are constantly getting picked, and you can afford it, get a Bowley lock from Canada, a Miwa lock from Japan and a BiLock lock from Australia. Either install all three of them on each of your exterior doors or alternate them. I have no personal experience with these locks but they are supposes to be very good (taking such a very long time to pick that they will keep most people out).
- This fridge door alarm has a timer, which makes it very convenient to use for guarding your front door when you’re not in, and while it can be switched off easily and I don’t know anyone who still responds to sound alarms, each potentially deterring and delaying element helps and this can’t do any harm.
If you are being stalked or know someone who is being stalked, then former police detective Mike Proctor’s book “Antidote for a stalker” may be wonderful to have and also to give to people around you.
When you for example read the paragraphs about trophy collection, gaslighting and disruption of services etc., you may feel immense gratitude and relief. Because if that is happening to you, then many people will have told you that you’re nuts or just silently doubted you when you tried to tell them what’s going on in your life. In the UK, they may for example have told you that you must have signed up to “Look after my bills” and then forgotten about it, without having listened to what you were actually saying…
(Fragment from “Antidote for a stalker“.)
The book is written from a law enforcement perspective and contains a lot of advice for law enforcement professionals as well as for targets. Some of the information in it is now out of date, for example the bits about the National Stalking Training Academy in the UK, which no longer exists.
I also have a course on Udemy for how you can protect yourself a little bit against stranger stalking if you are in business for yourself as well as related booklets:
