Because we have been taught that something – whatever it is – is bad. If you let go of the idea that something is good or bad, you may feel a weight lift from your shoulders.
If you simply allow and observe the thing that is supposed to be bad, you may find that it is interesting – hence also good, right or even fun – all by itself.
Feeling depressed is bad, for instance. It is even considered a mental health problem these days. An illness. Feeling cheerful is good. Acting cheerful when you’re feeling depressed is good. Is it?
It can be, but there are times, after the death of a loved one for example, when we really have to allow feelings that are supposedly bad.
(Is mourning someone’s death truly “a mental health issue”? Or could it be a natural part of life?)
It is our resistance to “bad” feelings that often becomes the greater problem. As soon as you allow certain feelings and stop considering them bad, they can lose their power over you quickly.
And heck, even moping can be a heck of a lot of fun too.
What always comes to my mind when I say something like that is an image from the original Swedish Pippi Longstocking TV series.
Pippi is in a foul mood and goes around angrily stamping her feet, probably in puddles of water, powerfully indulging in her foul mood, full of energy. Acceptance. A foul mood is just a foul mood, not the end of the world.
Puddles of water? So it must have rained. Rain! Rain is bad.
I too have my personal good/bad hangups. Ideas that make me feel vulnerable or guilty or inadequate or unhappy. What are yours?